Our Adventures for The Past 100 Days of Being Joyfully Married :)

Today marks our first 100 days as a joyfully married couple 🙂 Wew! Praise God for this first milestone in our married life!

100 days

It just feels like yesterday when Melvin & I said our wedding vows for each other, a sign of commitment to the Lord and to each other that we will always choose to love God above all, submit to His will and really love each other selflessly just like how Christ love each one of us.  Up until today, and yes, it’s our first 100 days of being married! Our first milestone 🙂 

So what are our learning or different adventures that we have for the past 100 days? Let me start this by saying that we can declare and put on display what the Bible declares: God’s standard for marriage and the family is the only standard that can produce meaning, happiness, and fulfillment in this life.  Yes, we should only base our standards on God’s standards even in marriage.

We are not yet experts in this area of marriage and I guess, we will never be, because of the continuing pruning, lesson learned, and changes that the Lord allows us to go through because He wants us to see us change from God’s glory to glory.  Our marriage in this first 100 days is still full of adjustments, yet still full of love and forgiveness always. We are more than excited for all the things that God will show us and let us experience in the next 100 days or in the next 100 days of being married.   Here are some realization or learning that we want to share to you all 🙂

Divine direction as husband & wife. This is one revelation that we ponder together the other night as we pray, we are continually seeking and asking for His divine direction to be with us in every step of the way, in every seasons we are going to be in, because without it, there will always be confusion and without peace.

Selfless and Unbreakable love. This is true in marriage, it is selfless and yes it is unbreakable because as what the Bible says  “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh” (v. 31). Gen 2:24 ”  And God’s standard for marriage still hasn’t changed even in this modern time.

Purifying Love Christ loved the church sacrificially with this goal in mind:

That He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless (vv. 26-27).

Love wants only the best for the one it loves, and it cannot bear for a loved one to be corrupted or misled by anything evil or harmful. If you really love your wife, you’ll do everything in your power to maintain her holiness, virtue, and purity every day you live.

Caring Love 

Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church (vv. 28-29).

The word translated “cherishes” literally means “to warm with body heat” — it is used to describe a bird sitting on her nest (e.g., Deut. 22:6). Husbands, you are to provide a secure, warm, safe haven for your wife.

When your wife needs strength, give her strength. When she needs encouragement, give it to her. Whatever she needs, you are obligated to supply as best you can. God chose you to provide for and protect her, to nourish and cherish her, and to do so “as Christ also does the church.”

What is your marriage saying to the watching world? If you’ll walk in the power of the Spirit, yield to His Word, and be mutually submissive, you can know that God will bless you abundantly and glorify His Son through your marriage.

In the end, we have nothing to boast to anyone, to ourselves or  even to God, because we know that this marriage is working not because of our own decisions, desires, wants, dreams or crazy prayers answered, it is merely because God is the author of this union and our marriage. This season has just begun and we are just so expectant for what God will do on our behalf. God is our ‘star’, God is the main director of our faith, we will choose to rely in His goodness and His love in all our days 🙂

Until next time my dear readers! May God’s peace, righteousness and joy be with you all 🙂

Love,

Mrs. Piza 🙂

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Helpmate in All Seasons <3

Helpmate in All Seasons <3

Marriage is a Commitment to God to be A Suitable Helpmate for Your Spouse in All Seasons :)

Hi everyone 🙂 Hope you are all doing okay in this rainy night as you read this PART 2 of my blog ( for those who haven’t read the part 1, click here. Listening to Norah Jones songs on the background while pressing on this latest blog update of mine, she’s also one of my favorite song writer/singer by the way … 🙂  After a lot of thinking, praying and just deciding on what will be my topic for the 2nd part of this 2 part blog, I finally decided to share my thoughts about being a ‘HELPMATE FOR ALL SEASONS’ ( I wrote this last night & shared this today.. )

Genesis 2:18 “It is not good for the man to be alone,  I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Just like what the Bible says it is not good for a man to be alone, He will make a suitable helper for him… and the next question is how can you be a suitable helpmate for your spouse?

The answer is, you can pray, support and always speak blessings to him/her; but these are just basic way of being a suitable helpmate that you & I needs to take heart and be committed to do.

It is not merely your commitment to each other but it’s primarily your commitment to God. Being a suitable helpmate cannot be measured by how short or long your marriage is, it is not also based on head knowledge or life experiences but ALL BY GOD’S GRACE, I REPEAT.. ALL BY GOD’S GRACE 🙂 Not also by our own human works, or ability but ALL BY GOD’S GRACE 🙂

Why? Because marriage can thrive and can be sustained only by God.  Being a suitable helpmate is not an instant thing that you got after your wedding day… it’s in fact an everyday decision of both husband and wife to be a suitable helpmate just how God calls them to be for each other. Remember, your spouse is a reflection of God’s love for you everyday, that needs to be well taken care of because it is a gift from God.

My husband Melvin & I have shifting work schedules, so there we’re times that my husband will leave our home so early in the morning while I am still in my deep sleep and when it’s time for me to go to work, my husband is going home already 🙂  It is an extra effort for us to have a quality time together since we have different schedules.  We both chose to and decided to make it an intentional quality time because that’s how we can create memories together, do our things that we love to do like talking, cooking, laughing together, doing the laundry together 🙂

 It’s a reminder also for young men out there that knowing to do household chores won’t make you less of a man but it can be a great help for your future wife too! And besides, you do not marry a ‘yaya’ or a ‘maid’ … you marry a wife… 🙂

So you are on a waiting season? You are still single? What are you going to do while you wait for your suitable helpmate? We’ll learn as much as you can,  learn how to cook (especially for the women, but that does not exempt men to not know how to cook, FYI, my husband knows how to cook very well so it’s a plus point also if you know how to cook men 🙂 ), practice being organize at your home so that when you have your suitable helpmate, you’ll create a lovely and pleasant home together. From as simple as doing the household chores to making a big decision together for your life will be so much fun if you two are both in the same page while you are both discovering all your potentials and gifting as you go through this life.  You can see up close and personal the beauty of each others imperfections,  the strength and the depth of the love that you can give to your spouse all by God’s grace. We are able to love unconditionally because God loves as first 🙂

 Being a suitable helpmate is a calling from God, you need not to look down on yourself but always choose to be grateful because  He has given each one of us the grace to lead if you are a man and the grace to submit if you are a woman. 

Marriage is not always a walk in the park, or a bed of red roses, it is in fact hard to make marriage work but one thing that will make you at peace everyday in spite and despite of every trials that will be thrown at your marriage is that God is the author of this love so there is nothing to fear; as long as you both know that you are leaded by His word each day.

Anyway I do pray that you are all encourage to be the best helpmate for all seasons for your spouse or for your future spouse .. Until next time! 🙂 May God bless you all! 🙂

Love, Mrs. Piza ❤