Praying for a husband, like praying for anything, is not a matter of negotiating with God for what we want.
Am I praying for my future husband? Yes. Am I good at it? Consistent at it? No.
But here is the important thing about praying for a husband: it continually focused my eyes on Jesus and allowed me to trust Him in EVERY area, and particularly this area that was so near to my heart. I put it this way:
Peter wasn’t supposed to be able to walk on water. And when he made that fact his focus, along with the storm and treacherous waves around him, he did what you’d expect. He sank. But when he fixed his eyes on Christ, he did the unexpected.
For many women, getting married would seem just as miraculous. Praise God that He hasn’t changed — He’s still the same wonder-working God who walked with Peter on the water. He still does the unexpected. But we have to do our part. We have to keep our eyes on Him. In the process, He may change our attitudes, our expectations, our habits, our health — whatever needs changing. He can do anything — He’s God. You can trust Him and count on Him. He is faithful.
Praying for a husband, an activity I am doing everyday with a lot of single friends too!
Just like what in Matthew 18:19-20 says: “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
Just like a help to reorient my thinking. Instead of being down in the dumps over what I don’t have yet, I am able to be reminded of God’s power and great care for me. Even on a human level, I would think about my friends — and how much I wanted to see whoever that man God has chose for me to come into my life — and I know God’s care for all of us. Even better, He had the resources and ability to make it happen!
What are we praying for? We are praying that God would prepare our hearts for marriage and make us good wives and mothers. We are praying that God would orchestrate all the circumstances in our lives in accordance with His will, including those in the romantic arena. We are praying that our future husbands would be bold, courageous leaders, unashamed of wanting a wife, marriage and children. We know that God WILL & CAN ANSWER ALL THESE prayers for us. But as I am continually praying, trusting, and waiting on God, I have no idea how He will do it; Now: I just have faith that He can … and it is part of His best for me, He will.
I believe that God is using our prayers, yes — you & me — whoever you are, wherever you are, I don’t know if we already met or we’re still going to meet again soon, or I will meet you tomorrow or next month or next year or the next ten years or so , — my future husband — to bring us together.
Praying about our future spouses put our minds and hearts in the right place to recognize one another, and when that happened we were able to give God the glory for answering our prayers.
If you are single just like me, you’re not of lesser value as a person. God’s plan will take each of us down different paths, paths to be celebrated. The key is to submit your will to the Lord’s, because living a life that is glorifying to God isn’t about getting what you want. It’s about conforming to what God wants. And that’s where praying — and I mean really praying — about and discerning God’s will for your life regarding marriage becomes critical. If you do feel called to marriage, shouldn’t we see God as big enough to make it happen? It may not be your timetable, but if He put that desire in your heart, is He not worthy of your trust?
Of course, not everyone is called to marriage. I have the utmost admiration for my single friends who are able to minister to others to an extent that wouldn’t be possible if they were married. I consider them heroes in the body of Christ. And not every single person who wants to be married feels unsatisfied or lonely. But the truth is, many do.
To these individuals I say, be encouraged — God has not forgotten about you. “[He] is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18). Pray that God would be the Author of your dreams. If you believe God has called you to marriage, hold fast to that dream. “God sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6a). Use this time now to prepare yourself for marriage. Pray for God to make you — and your spouse-to-be — ready. You can trust God for your future. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).
And remember, you can find peace and joy in Christ right now knowing that you are — and will always be — His bride 🙂
God knows everything about everything—He is all-knowing—He is unsearchable—He is inscrutable—He is inexhaustible
What a God we serve!!! As I continue to get to know and spend time with Him, I am getting to know how powerful and awesome He is. God knows everything about everything; there is nothing that He does not know.
I use to worry about the future and what could happen next. I realized that it was me, wanting to have control over everything, truth is, I can’t control everything and I don’t know “everything about everything.”
When we, began to know the God we serve, we start to realize that He is able to carry us through whatever will come our way, Instead of worrying about everything or wanting to know everything, we should trust in the Creator of this universe. There is no need to question the Creator about,
“if He knows what He is doing”. We might not understand what He is doing, but we have to trust that He knows what He is doing.
What is a true woman?
1. She lives a God-centered life–she embrace what God has called her to be, embrace the purpose for her creation as a woman. God is the center of her world. She lives to bring glory and honor to His Name.
2. She trust in God– trusting in Him about the future and not fretting at what is to come in the future. Trusting in Him, who is the Creator of the universe. Knowing that what God is doing is for her good.
3. She says “yes Lord”–Surrendering all to the Lord. She knows her life is not her own. There is full obedience from her and submission.
My prayer is that I will become a woman who lives a God-center life, trust in Him completely and says “yes Lord” and not to question His knowledge. I am not perfect, but I pray that everyday as I spend time with Him and growing Him, I will become more and more like Him. I want to live for Him, glory and honor to His Name.
To my love Farina .. my dearest ‘twin’ sister :’)
It’s your Birthday today! 🙂 Happy Happy Birthday to you! I don’t know how to start my little surprise for you … taaadaaan .. here it is 😀 a blog :)) I was thinking, how am I going to make this day truly special for you … then I thought of writing a blog specially for you 🙂 Since I don’t know how long will my birthday greeting would be … so I decided to put it all here in my blog site :))
FARINA … sounds so FAR but you know that you’re always INside my heArt * yiiiheee ❤ mushy sweetness! corney :P:D * Hahaha! I am sure I made your heart smile like this 😀 But anyway I just want to thank you for coming into my life. I am so blessed that I have witnessed you grow deeply in love with the Lord. I can still remember during your Victory weekend last February 2012, you are very excited and you we’re asking mewhat will happen .. then I told you, ‘ just wait and see and be open’ …
.. and this was just the beginning of your new and amazing journey with the Lord .. 🙂
The sun was shining so bright that day … and just like the sun that shines so bright … you Farina, gave a special kind of sunshine in my life 🙂 You are a woman that is full of vibrant, very loving, beautiful inside and out, and trustworthy. I thank God for your life.
right after cooking .. Lourdy what is pawis dahil sa mainit sa kusina? 😛 😀 :))
One of the many memorable lines that you told me that I won’t forget is when you asked me (while we we’re cooking pasta at your home) .. you said: “Lourdy, tama na ba itong pagka- luto?’ .. then I checked it .. I said: ” Okay na” 🙂 — It was memorable for me because what I saw in you is your willingness and the eagerness to learn how to cook :)) And that for me is. so beautiful! simple as it may seem but it really struck me 🙂 Even though, I am not that good in cooking, you still trust my taste buds 🙂 😛 😀 🙂 I really enjoyed our cooking bonding time together 🙂 Looking forward for more 🙂
And hey, this was our night swimming bonding/ sleepover :’) You see, kambal talaga tayo, parehas pa tayo ng kulay ng top :))
Farina, my ever beautiful twin Far … Know that I am here for you … These words that I have written here in my blog is not enough to show my love, appreciation, gratitude, for you. I pray that whatever you desire, He will and surely He can give it all to you because you are His princess, you are His beloved. I pray for good health, for peace, love and just over flowing joy will just fill your days. Whatever He has in store for you , I am sure it is the BEST! Continue to seek, love and obey Him with all your heart. You are a woman of courage and grace. Whatever trials and/or whatever triumphs that this life will give you, I know that you will always always stand strong and stay strong because God is always at your side .. He is carrying you in all seasons of your life! 🙂 He will keep you sweet but tough 🙂
For through wisdom your days will be many, and years will be added to your life. Proverbs 9:11 (NIV)
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. -Proverbs 31:30 (NIV)
God has a special BIRTHDAY all planned, just for you, Full of rich blessings, and happy times, too.
May your cup be overflowing, with the Joy that God brings, and spill out over others, as you continue your journey with Him.
May you be surrounded by friends all the year through, showing them God’s Love by the things that you do.
I LOVE YOU FARINA! 🙂
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
always your twin sis with much love & prayers,
*Excess, kindly click the small photos once then you’ll see, the photo will be much more bigger 🙂 .. I thank you, bow :D*
Hahaha! Farina, hindi naman obvious na A’ for Effort talaga ito :))) Eh sabi ko sayo eh, Acts of Service ang numero uno kong love language eh! 🙂 SURPRISE *toinks! :)) I love surprises and being surprise! Obvious! 😀 hahaha! so na surprise ka naman ba? 😀 Time and effort for the win ganyan kita ka mahal Farina :)) Hahaha! O, kamusta ang heart mo? sasabog na ba? sa sobrang words of affirmation and sobrang nakakataba ng puso .. hihihihi .. you deserve it all my love ❤ I love you Farina! 🙂 Last na to 😀
Tama na … awat na 3:19 am na ng madaling araw .. hahaha! may tumitilaok na manok dito .. I need to sleep 🙂 Good morning Farina! Happy Happy Birthday 🙂
Bravery or courage is a character trait Christians need to possess. As Psalm 31:24 says, “Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in in the LORD.” Paul encourages the Corinthians, “Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong” (I Corinthians 16:13) during their walk with God. Solomon tells us, “The righteous are bold as a lion” (Proverbs 28:1)
God proclaims in Revelation 21:8 that the cowardly will not be in His Kingdom. In order to make sure we have the necessary courage, the boldness God requires, we must seek Him and ask Him to put a brave heart in us just as He did with many other saints in times past. We have the abilities to finish this course successfully with His help.
Whether we live through the great troubles of the end time or die in martyrdom for our cause, we need to testify before the world of God’s way with a brave heart. Now is the time to ask ourselves, “How brave is my heart?” so that if and when the time comes for us to stand for our convictions, we will be ready 🙂
Just a thought …
1. Tough decisions only get tougher.
You are only one decision away from a totally different life. I believe that. One change in diet or exercise can radically change your health status. One change in spiritual disciplines can open up new dimensions of grace and power. One change in a relationship can lead to intimacy. What do you need to stop doing or start doing? Your destiny isn’t a mystery. Your destiny is the cumulative decisions you make. What tough decision do you need to make? What are you waiting for?
2. Negativity is cancer. Kill it or it will kill you.
I am wide open to rebuke. Constructive criticism is the avenue to excellence. But I have zero tolerance for negativity. How do you stop negativity? Positivity. One of the ways we do that in our lives is sharing wins before every meetings. It reminds us that God is moving and we get to be part of it. Sharing wins creates positive energy. And it’s positivity that gives us the energy we need to deal with negativity. Don’t let one staff member, one board member or one small group member hijack what God has called you to captain.
3. No Margin = No Vision.
If you try to be all things to all people you’ll become nothing to nobody. I have focus days and meetings days. I meet with people on my meeting days. I meet with God on my focus days. I need days where there is nothing on my agenda so I can read or write, dream or rest. The lack of margin will kill your creativity. If you don’t control your calendar your calendar will control you. It starts with establish boundaries. Then you need to guard against the Messiah complex. You can’t save everybody. In fact, you can’t save anybody. You aren’t doing anybody any favors if you make yourself available to everybody all the time. Take a break. Take a day off. Take a vacation.
4. If you listen to God people will listen to you.
People don’t need a word from me. They need a word from God. I want my messages to have a prophetic edge to them and that happens when I get into the presence of God. The presence of God is where problems are solved and dreams are conceived. Get in the presence of God. At the end of the day, I am nothing without God’s anointing. I need to keep an ear tuned to the people, but more importantly, I need to keep an ear tuned to the still small voice of the Holy Spirit.
5. Don’t let your budget determine your vision.
Too often we allow our budget to determine our vision instead of allowing vision to determine our budget. That doesn’t mean you hire lots of staff you’ll need to fire. It doesn’t mean you let expenses get out of control. It does mean that you hold tenaciously to this simple truth: when God gives a vision He makes provision. You need to budget in a way that gives God the room to do miracles. And make doubly sure that you have vision beyond your resources.
6. Everything is an experiment
One of the greatest dangers we face as leaders is inattentional blindness. We stop noticing our environment. When that happens we lose creativity, we lose excellence. You’ve got to make some mistakes! You’ve got to take some risks. Over time there is a cognitive shift from right-brain to left-brain: we stop doing ministry out of imagination and start doing it out of memory. Do something different. After all, if you want God to do something new then you can’t keep doing the same old thing.
7. If your life is interesting your messages will be interesting.
The reason why many of our messages lack impact is because they aren’t interesting and they aren’t interesting because we’re not interesting. Get a life! You need a life outside of church. Go on an adventure. Take up a hobby. Learn something new.
8. Don’t just dream big. Think long.
We tend to overestimate what we can accomplish in 2 years, but we underestimate what we can accomplish in ten years. Zoom out. Your mantra shouldn’t be “as soon as possible.” It should be “as long as it takes.” Your vision isn’t just too small. It’s too short.
9. Put your family first
At the end of the day, I want to be famous in my family. They deserve my best. Don’t let work become home and home become work. Success for me is my family , praying for them that someday, in His time, they will all be saved — to love God with all of their heart, soul, mind, and strength. Your youth pastor isn’t called to disciple your kids. You are. You’ll make mistakes, but the secret to successful parenting is this: keep trying, keep forgiving, keep loving.
10. Who you’re becoming is more important than what you’re doing.
Don’t worry about church growth. Focus on personal growth and church growth will take care of itself. Stay humble. Stay hungry. Make sure you’re doing ministry out of the overflow of what God is doing in your own heart, your own life. Remember that who you are is more important than what you do. People over programs. People over portfolios.
11. Work like it depends on you. Pray like it depends on God.
Failing to plan is planning to fail. So plan away. And loving God with all of your strength = a great work ethic. So work hard. But I believe in prayerstorming more than brainstorming. Prayer is the difference between you fighting for God and God fighting for you. If work is the engine of success, then prayer is the high-octane fuel.
12. If you have something to say, say it.
You cannot over-communicate. Say it. Then say it over and over again. Say it in different ways. Another mantra is this: don’t internalize, verbalize. I don’t want to hear about issues when they’ve become full-blown problems with collateral damage. Internalizing issues only makes them worse. And I don’t want to hear it from a third-party. If you have something to say, say it.
13. Be Yourself
Don’t try to be who you’re not. I’m certainly trying to grow in maturity and gifting, but I’m not worried about who I’m not. Abraham Lincoln said, “You can please all of the people some of the time, some of the people all of the time, but you can’t please all the people all of the time.” Uniformity isn’t the goal. Unity is. That also doesn’t mean unanimous. According to the categorization of adopters, 16% of the people you lead will be resisters. It doesn’t matter if you come down with stone tablets from Mount Sinai. Even Jesus lost one of his disciples.
14. Don’t live for the applause of people.
My philosophy of ministry is Matthew 10:16: Be shrewd as a snake and innocent as a dove. You’ve got to beat the enemy at his own game and that takes creativity. But you also need to do the right things for the right reasons and that takes integrity. Don’t worry about being politically correct. Be biblically correct. To get to the point where you genuinely care for people you have to get to the point where you don’t care how they feel about you. Live for the applause of Jesus.
15. I’d rather have one God idea than a thousand good ideas.
Let me say it again: get in the presence of God. Those new ideas are discovered in the context of prayer and fasting and nowhere else. Good ideas are good, but God ideas change the course of history. Sometimes you just need to get out of your routine.
16. You cannot break the law of sowing and reaping.
If you want to receive honor then you need to give honor. If you want a generous culture, then you’ve got to give sacrificially. Set the example. Set the bar. At the end of the day, the strengths and weaknesses of any organization mirror the strengths and weaknesses of the leadership. Take responsibility for it. Then take action. For better or for worse, you cannot break the law of sowing and reaping.
17. Enjoy the journey
If you are too focused on the future you’ll fall into the when/then syndrome. When we have “this many people” or “this much money” I’ll be able to enjoy leadership. No you won’t. You need to enjoy every stage. For the record, it will only get harder. It will only get more complicated. Sin will complicate your life in negative ways. Blessings will complicate your life in positive ways. Praise God. I can’t imagine life without any complications. So count the cost and keep on keeping on 🙂